Trust

Everytime that I'm with my friends without Mike being there, if I call him I often ask suspiciously where he is, what he is doing, and whether he is cheating on me.

And without fail anyone who overhears my conversation will be like "OMG how can you not trust your own husband?"

LOL. I don't. Why should I? Name me ONE upside to blindly trusting ANYBODY. And my attitude has nothing to do with Mike. I'd explain.

Just look at all those who have suffered from being cheated upon. What do they say?

They say things like...

"I can't believe he would do this to me."

"I can't believe he has been sleeping with her for 4 freaking months and I didn't even know! How was I so blind and stupid?"

"All those times he said he was on a company dinner there was no dinner! I believed him for 18 freaking times and he went prostituting ALL THOSE TIMES!"

and most commonly of all...

"I can't believe I trusted him."

And this doesn't just apply to cheating. What about all those girls with sex tapes leaked out by their ex boyfriends? You think they are stupid and they trusted the wrong dudes? That your partner will NEVER do that to you? That you are the clever one? Wake up. I've seen the MOST unlikely men cheat.

Cecilia Cheung trusted Edison Chen to never show the close-up shots of her long-haired vagina to anyone. And there is it, on the net, forever. Sure he didn't mean to distribute it - but if she never trusted that he could safekeep it forever, this would never have happened to her.

So back to me and my attitude towards trust. It seems silly to me that people put so much heart into that little word. They say "He would never hurt me. I just know. I trust him. "

And I think... So what if you don't? Is it a bad thing, really? Is that supposed to be an insult on his character? Is he supposed to be ANGRY?

Nothing to be angry about what. Everyone needs to safeguard their self-interests.

You say you trust someone... To what extent do you do that? Do you give him your bank password? Would you let him do a video tour of your genitalia? Would you place him and Megan Fox on a deserted island with a condom? Probably not. Nobody trusts ANYBODY that much, unless they are completely naive.

As for me, I trust that Mike will never choose a banana over an orange. Because he hates bananas and these things don't change. I'm willing to put a $1,000 bet on it. But probably not my whole fortune.

I trust (not 100% but maybe 95%) that Mike will not, for example, see a girl at some event and go ask for her phone number. Because I know his character is shy and he is afraid someone might see him do this and report to me. But if he is drunk... Who knows?

Trust is such a funny thing. People always say it needs to be earned, needs to be built.

After some time of interacting with something, certain things can be depended on.

Like I trust that my blackberry will push my emails on time because it has never once failed to do it in 2 years. I trust that my McChicken will taste the same as it has always tasted.

Over the course of 5 years, never once has Mike flirted back with girls who show interest in him, whether online or in real life. Yet I don't trust that he would never cheat on me. Why?

1) People change. Today he is madly in love with you. Tomorrow he is bored. The next day he is bored AND drunk. Day after that he is bored, drunk, horny and had a fight with you. Who knows? The only thing you can depend on is... People change with time. Even if their personalities remain identical, their feelings towards you might change.

2) Circumstances change. Sure, in these 5 years Mike has never met a girl he liked so much he is willing to give up everything with me. Tomorrow... Who knows? If he meets and gets to know 1,000,000 girls, there has got to one he finds is better than me, no matter how much he loves me. Right?

3) Consequences are bigger. And this is the best reason not to trust that your partner will not stray. CONSEQUENCES. It is my fucking heart at stake here! And my marriage! It is easy to trust when the consequences are small. I pay $2 to my usual chicken rice stall because I trust it will be yummy as always. Not yummy no big deal, I'd buy from another stall - net loss $2 and some time.


But if I believe Mike will never stray, when he does, I'm gonna be fucked.

You are shaking your head, thinking, "You dumb blonde, even if you don't trust, either way you are fucked. If it happens it happens!"

You are wrong. Sure, I'd still be heartbroken. But wait...

Prevention is better than cure

I know I've mentioned this many times.

When you remain vigilant about your partners actions, you are working hard to PREVENT him from committing a mistake. He knows you are checking his phone - there goes flirty smses. He knows you have all his passwords - can't woo girls online.

If you know where he is every minute, he can't go to a hotel without arousing your suspicion. Sure he can work his way around all these but it is hard work. That's another deterrent. If he is willing to do all that to cheat, so be it. But I sure won't make it easy for him.

He wants to go to a dirty KTV bar with his gross colleague. He swears he won't do anything with the girls there. Put your foot down and don't allow! You want to trust he won't get a hooker or prevent him from meeting one? Which has worse consequences? Explain to him why it makes you uncomfortable, then placate him with a blowjob.

And if you find out some chick is mildly interested, you confront her, shame her, threaten her. You puff up your feathers and make sure she knows you will not go in peace. Worse come to worst you be nice to her so she gets so guilty she stops her nonsense.

When you are so suspicious, won't it piss him off?


If he has nothing to hide, he would not get angry. Obviously I don't do my routine checking in an awful way. I just log in to his fb, take up his phone to read when he is sleeping. He doesn't even know. If your man gets annoyed, it is the first sign that he IS possibly cheating on you. Maybe not full out cheating, but flirting, yes. Or that he wants to be able to. He is probably hiding something. Am I paranoid? Maybe. But from personal dating experience, those demanding privacy and space are the exact ones who are cheating.

Mike has never once got angry with me when I checked his phone or facebook. "Go ahead," he says. "You are just wasting your time." And he is right, I was. And he reads my shit too, in case you think this only goes one way.



Cheating is just like cancer - you want to win it, you've got to find out early. Half the battle is won when you kill the sapling before it turns into a full grown weed, throttling your relationship.

If he is just at the "getting to know" stage with some girl - you find out, you have a talk with him to resolve things. Make sure he won't see her again. You want to wait till he is in love? Too late.

If he is already sleeping with someone else, when you find out you can plan your next step. If you are married, you can hire a PI - submit evidence to court and get half his fortune. Cease sleeping with him in case you get some disease. Cut off his penis. Or forgive him, depending on the severity of his crime.

Why, do you want to wait till he had an affair for months and impregnated the slut before you say "OMGWTFBBQ KILL ME NOW MY KID HAS A STEP SIBLING AND I HAVE AIDS"?

Some of you might be saying... Why work so hard to prevent that seems unavoidable? If he cheats, he won't be worth it anyway.

Rubbish. ALL men would cheat if there are no consequences. I sincerely believe that. Some don't because they don't wanna hurt us. Some because they are scared of losing us. Some because of kids, social ramifications, anything.

Most commonly of all, men cheat because they made a mistake, thinking with their penis, enjoying the attention - THINKING THEY WON'T BE CAUGHT.


And when you blindly trust, that's when they are most certain they will never get caught.


Every few days I remind Mike how his life will be like if he is dumb enough to cheat. And I WILL find out. Money be gone/he will never find someone as good as me again/penis cut etc. Just in case he forgets.


I'm sure a lot of you don't agree with my school of thought, saying, "You must be all sad, paranoid and worrisome all the time. That's not how love is supposed to be like. I pity Mike."

LOL duncha worry. Mike and I are happy and in love.

Obviously I *do* trust him because he is a good man with principles. But just not enough to 1) fully believe he will NEVER cheat and 2) not do my best to try to prevent it from happening.

If the day comes and he strays, I'd say "Oh well at least I tried my best. And at least I was not duped for ages."

What do you think? Do you trust your partner?

Those of you who got cheated on, did you trust your partner? Do you still trust now?

Help Carl Jones find his luggage!

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Guess what I've got here with me!

It's shiny, it's a bright, gorgeous red and it's called the Cube Alfa!

Yes it's my all new AMERICAN TOURISTER luggage! :D :D

I've been wanting a new luggage for ages. Wanted a big one to share with Mike when we go on holidays and the only big one I have is pink, which is too embarrassing for him to wheel around.

In case you haven't heard of the brand before, the brand American Tourister has been around since 1933. They are a trusted household brand for luggage thanks to their high quality and durable products. They are even the first brand to offer luggage tags! And amazingly enough, Mike's dad gave him one of those luggage tags. It has been in use in their family since Mike was 8 years old!

That's 21 years ago and it lasted till today. Seriously. It's currently hanging on our wardrobe knob. Don't ask me why, it just ended up there.

I had a hard time picking the colour for my Cube Alfa:

It comes in super cute colours! I wanted the orange and the blue-green. Didn't care about the black and green.


It also comes in 3 different sizes and the best thing about it is that it comes with a TSA approved lock:

Did you know that the TSA sometimes opens up luggage to check on their contents? 

If you lock your luggage, they will cut your lock open! So horrible! But with a TSA approved lock, the authorities will have a special key to open the lock so your luggage is safe from potential thieves yet won't be ruined by security checks.

Another thing I love about the Cube Alfa? Most hard shell luggage comes with clip fasteners but this is zipped! The flap around the zip is soft rubber so it won't hurt your hands while zipping.

I don't like the clips on hard luggage coz they sometimes are not properly secured. They just trick you into thinking they are, then spill your contents everywhere!! GRRRR

The rest of the luggage is made of 100% polycarbonate. No idea what that is but I suppose it's strong and everything! And best of all, super lightweight! :D

And I love 4 wheeled luggage. Seriously, 2 wheels should be obselete by now!

Here's the inside

With me beside it for size comparison. Just kidding. I'm posting this up coz my legs look fab in the picture. TYTYTY

(Also don't need to keep looking if I zao geng ok I went to darken the area so it looks like a shadow lol)

If you are thinking "I can't believe this bitch is blabbering on about luggage wtf. I'm gonna stop reading now" you are gonna regret it because HERE IS AN AWESOME CONTEST!


So the story goes like this. Carl Jones, a small town American boy, comes to Asia for the first time and he keeps losing his luggage in different locations!

(CLICK HERE TO MORE DETAILS AND TO JOIN!)

If you can help him find his luggage you can win a holiday to the said location!!

EXCITING NOT?

The contest has been going on for a while now and already people have won trips to...

Langkawi

Chiangmai

Phuket

You can check out American Tourister's facebook page where you can see pictures of past winners and even photos from their holiday!

You don't even need to purchase any luggage to take part. Just join and hope your entry is creative enough to win!

But of course, if you do win...

It would be a bit ungrateful and assholey to go to your holiday with anything but an American Tourister luggage, correct or not? LOLOL

As for me, I'm going on my holiday to Hongkong and Otaru (on the 14th till 20th) with my brand new luggage!

I'd be sad if it gets scratched. :( It's so pretty and shiny now.

Blinged up berry

YO!!

Promised to show you guys how my blinged up blackberry torch looks like so here's a video + some photos!!

Apparently because I uploaded the video with a song the video cannot be viewed in Germany or on mobile. Sorry! If you are on mobile, you can still see the video when you are back on a computer. Just see photos for now lah!!!

Photos!!

My camera takes a photo with every video recorded (I don't know why) so here's are two of the photos. Edited, of course. If you are very free you can try to find the screenshot and examine the difference. LOL

Front view

With the keyboard (in white because this is the white torch)

Side

Back

In case you are wondering... YES the bling does make the phone quite heavy! But worth it. :D

Rainbow keyboard

Also... erm... I got something to confess... Some of you might have already guessed from looking at the Photo of the Moment...

Small voice:








I bought an iPhone.



Yes yes hypocrite etc. But anyway let me explain myself. I'm still using the blackberry as my main phone. It's my communications device and in terms of everything communication wise, it is still far superior to the iPhone. Things like email, chats (be it bbm or msn or even whatsapp, which is free on the bb and gives you free emoji), calls, twitter, or smses. Afterall, the blackberry has an awesome keyboard. I LOVE tapping away on that keyboard.

But the time has come where I can no longer deny that when it comes to artistic matters like snapping nice pictures or fun things like playing games, the iPhone is better.

There are so many ridiculously good photography apps. And there is a front facing camera. C'mon. A freaking front facing camera. A camwhorer's dream. I've been begging BB to come out with that for AGES.

Like this... taken with the iphone. Can you fucking believe it? They have freaking LIQUIFY on the phone. :( Sad face because I love the blackberry. I am on Team Blackberry. But why don't they have awesome apps like this?

(My fav photography apps: 美图秀秀, makeover (the liquify app, although it's not very good but better than nothing), idarkroom, Princess Camera. I don't like instagram or histamatic because they make my photos cropped square)

So. To conclude I bought the iphone because Starhub has this awesome thing where you pay an extra $5 a month and you get a secondary sim card! You can use the second sim card in another phone and since my 3G plan is unlimited I can have 3G on both the BB and the iPhone! :D :D :D

All calls and smses will go to the primary phone (BB), but I can still send out smses and make calls on the secondary phone if I want to. It's awesome!

Gmasked the iPhone pink and blinging a matching ribbon on it.

With the BB

Here's how the back looks like!!

That's a Juicy Couture sticker in case you are wonder who G and P is. Founders of Juicy Couture.

I finished blinging the iPhone too but I didn't bother to snap pics of the end result yet. Next time!!

Iron Make your hair

Advertorial

In case you are wondering why the title of the blog entry is so weird sounding, it's because today I'm going to be trying out Liese's Iron Make Collection!! More about that in a bit.

First...

Are you bored of your flimsy, flat, shapeless hair like me?

You want to style your hair with hair irons. But what's the point when your hair reverts back to normal within a few minutes and half your curls are gone by the time you are done curling?

And also... you have a love-hate relationship with your curling iron or flat iron:

Because hair irons can go up to temperatures of 210 freaking degrees! Boiling water is just 100 degree Celsius and I can't imagine boiling my hair! Really, that crazy temperature is enough to make your hair curl - literally. (HAHA PUN)

Needless to say, using a curling/flat iron damages your hair if you don't use the necessary protection before styling.

Liese's Iron Make Collection to the rescue! 

Comes in 2 cute bottles: Rich Straight and Rich Curl

What are they?

The Iron Make Collection contains heat-activated polymer.

This magic polymer thingy is softened by heat - it spreads and stretches well on your hair, forming a barrier between your hair and the evil iron. This helps to minimize the heat damage on your hair.

As it cools, polymer becomes a solid again and keeps your hairstyle firm for you. There is also the "heat spring" ingredient that enables bouncy curls to be created with a "bending ability" - meaning your curls/ramrod straight hair will not feel stiff, hard or sticky!

So not only do you get hair that holds its style and shape all day, it's also soft to touch and not damaged! So amazing one wtf

I'm excited to give it a try!!!

Gonna curl my hair so I'm spritzing some Liese Iron Make Collection Rich Curl on my hair...

Psst psst

For more even coverage it's better to put the nozzle about 15cm from your hair. 

Make sure all parts of your hair that will come in contact with the hair iron is well covered.

Pinned up my hair, put in a flower, and curling tongs heated up. I am ready to start!

I definitely feel safer with Rich Curl in between my hair and the hot rod!

And done!!!! Love the gyaru curls! :D

I love it! To be honest I was a little skeptical at first about the product. I hate putting styling products on my hair coz I wash my hair about once every 4 days. Yeah it's gross and whatever - but my hair is super long so it's a major hassle to wash!

So yes I don't like products that make my hair stiff or hard. I like to run my fingers through my hair! And I suspected that the Liese Iron Make Collection might be, but it really isn't!! After this shooting this advertorial I actually went to bed with the product on my hair :D It's not sticky at all!

And the curls definitely lasted longer than usual. For even longer-lasting curls, you can try to use some of Liese's Wax and Foam to hold the curls into place.

Another thing I liked: I felt my hair looks shinier after I applied Rich Curl!! :D :D :D

So of course, it's time to camwhore! Afterall, a good hair day is not that easy to come by!

Thank you Iron Make Collection for my awesome camwhoring session! :P

I didn't use the Rich Straight but it works the same way as the Rich Curl - just that it contains "heat stretch" ingredients to straighten frizz and unwanted wavy hair.

And after application, just flat iron your hair till you get that perfect salon rebonded look!

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It's giveaway time!!

Want to win this awesome Two-in-one styler for straightening AND curling?

The reason why it looks so different is because it is a curling tong and also flat iron!! Super convenient! I also love how the tong has a thick barrel which gives you big gentle curls.

To win this...

Purchase any Liese Iron Make Collection from Watsons in the month of June. Snap a picture of the receipt with your name, IC and contact number and email it to liese@kao.com.sg - easy right? Closing date 30th June. 5 sets to be won!!

Winners will be notified by email.



Do check out LieseSG's facebook page for more of Liese's awesome products. Toodles and good luck styling your locks!

Questions about hair styling? Just ask away and I will be picking 3 questions to answer daily from 9th to 10th June on my blog!

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p/s: Thank you to everyone who’s viewed the video of me in my new job.Your support has been amazing! For those of you who haven’t seen it, click here now to check it out.

I'm exclusive

Today's blog entry is very stupid. You have been forewarned.

So anyway I saw a website a few days ago and it is called

"The Most Exclusive Website in the World"

Saw I had to use twitter to sign into it so I didn't bother. Today a follower on twitter linked me an article and apparently, the website only allows people who have verified accounts on twitter to enter!!

HELLO? What is the use of having a verified twitter account if not to enter dark elitist internet nightclubs??

This is how the first door looks like!

With a verified twitter account you can enter the second room:

Click to enlarge

And this is how it looks like. Meh. Kinda dirty. But what's cool is you can see the other verified peeps who have entered, and if they are still IN the room (aka on the website) you can also see that!

If are sick of mingling with the people who have a mere 5,000 twitter followers, you can proceed to the next door - that is, provided you have more than 5,000 followers.

Click to enlarge

OK this looks like a nicer room. But it still looks boring.

With 25,000 followers, you can go into an even more exclusive room. And I try to open the door to go beyond that:

And... Apparently I'm not popular enough.

Kua kua...

The moment I hit 100,000 followers, if ever, I'd be staying in that room all day, soaking in my own awesomeness!! LOLOL

But room 3 is not bad ok? Apparently Ryan Higa, Dr Pepper, Harvard University, Ryan Seacrest and Christian Siriano was in that rubbing shoulders with me!! HAHAHA!!

Ok that's the end of this entry. A stupid internet website made me feel good about myself today.

If you want to see how the other even more exclusive rooms look like you can click on this link. Ryan Seacrest posted more pictures but even he can't get into the 5,000,000 followers room!

p/s: Obviously follow me on twitter if you haven't already.

KL + Samantha Vega

OMG I'm super backdated on photos so here are some from my trip to KL and also the launch party of Samantha Vega in Singapore!

KL first... 

It was one of those weekends where I decided to be adventurous so Mike and I drove to KL in Laopokasaurus! For those of you who don't already know, it is a 20+ year old mercs and it is... kinda unreliable. LOL.

If we got stranded on the way we would have been fucked but I really wanted a road trip so we just took the risk! I LOVE road trips!! I love buying shitloads of snacks for the trip plus I can't drive so I can just sleep in the car with a blanket. I feel extra secure and snuggly in a car with Mike driving :D

Stayed at Tim's place. His guest room is constantly utilized by his SG friends wtf. I hope none of them had sex on the guest bed.

Left the house at about 730am. Arrived on the dot at 12pm!! Very proud of the GPS. Brought us all the way to KL and we only got lost once while in KL city.

Tim drove us all to Klang for bak ku teh lunch:

Here's Tim and Mike discussing politics and war (literally) while Audrey and I...

Do womenly duties wtf

Hahaha actually only Aud did it.

Here's 2 more useless pics of Audrey pouring tea:

Her looking a little crazy

And her looking pretty lol

Us!

After lunch we adjoin to Aud's friend Eric's place. He modifies blackberries!!

Crazy amount of casings!

Here's my new (at that point) white torch queuing up for its turn to get the casing changed to pink and keyboard lights changed to RAINBOW!!

And done!!

Ok the front casing cannot be changed coz it's stuck to the LCD screen. So only the back casing is changed to pink. And oh yes he gave me a hello kitty screen protector but I decided I don't really like it so I changed it.

The fully blinged blackberry I'd show you guys in the next post!! With the rainbow keyboard!

Day 2: Camwhoring while waiting for Aud to get ready!

Treating Tim's guest room like a hotel lol. (We cleaned it up later ok)

With Aud... It's shopping day!

But first... Lunch:

Hawker making egg tarts. First time I've seen it being made!

OMG fucking yummy roasted pork

Love this awesome Malaysian tea. We don't we have it here?? 

Much better than plain ol' teh peng.

Camwhoring with Cheesie and Aud at the M.A.C counter 

coz we thought the lighting there was good. #shameless

Aud and I switching sides coz we have the same good angle. LOL!

Erm no photos of us shopping like mad at Sungei Wang coz I was too freaking busy buying this and that. But coincidentally enough, we all walked into this shop and saw this tee that says...

"MY BLOG IS BIGGER THAN YOURS"

It's like it was MEANT TO BE. Like the boss could tell the future and he knew the 3 of us would walk in... I mean, there were only 3 of those tees there and who else would... or could... ever buy those?

Problem was the tees had 3 colours: White, beige, and grey - only one of each.

Since the 3 of us had similar tastes we decided the aforementioned order was the order of the likeablity of the tees' colours. We oh-ah-peh-ah-som-ed for it.

I lost so I was supposed to take grey. Aud won so she got the white. Cheesie got the beige.

The Cheesie said she really doesn't care whether beige or grey so she swapped with me coz I didn't like the grey.

Then Aud tried the white and didn't like the cut (which surprisingly differed from the grey and beige) so she said she'd swap with me.

That's how I climbed to the top of the food chain and got the tee colour of my choice MUAHAHAHA

Here's a picture of all of us wearing our tees :D

You know why??

COZ OUR BLOGS ARE BIGGER THAN YOURS!!

Ok joking joking I hope no crazy blog queen is reading this sentence and scoffing at me.

After dinner it was time to go home!!

Alas, there was some problem with Laopokasaurus. Mike managed to get the car from outside Tim's condo into Tim's condo... And then it wouldn't start.

We wrote a note and wanted to paste it on the car coz it was another resident's lot we were parked at.

It was 10pm on a Sunday night. :(

But after a lot of tweaking, Mike managed to get the car to start again and MIRACULOUSLY we managed to drive all the way back to Singapore without any problems!! :D

It was 3am by the time we reached home wtf.

Samantha Vega event at Zouk

After the super successful launch of Samantha Thavasa in Ion, sister brand Samantha Vega is also in town!!

Met Sophie and Qiu to eat before we go for the launch party:

Here's a blurry but chio photo of them

Haha look at Qiu's ridiculous green hair wtf. Quite funny

With Shuyin too

Gillian in a demure dress! Brains explode

With Kaykay too

With all the other pretty girls there.

Ok abrupt end of entry!